Are You Blocking Your Blessings?
The holidays can be a challenging time for many women with PCOS. It’s supposed to be a time of joy and celebration. It’s a time to give thanks for all of our blessings. The focus is on family and giving gifts to the ones we love. But what if you don’t feel blessed? What if you have yet to receive the gift that you want most of all?
If you have been trying to conceive a child and it has not happened for you yet, you may be harboring feelings toward other people that have been blessed with a child. You may try your best to avoid pregnant women. The sight of happy families may make you sad or even angry. Have you ever thought that maybe you did not deserve to be a mother? Or that it may not be in the stars for you to have a family? Have you ever said “I hate happy people”?
If you have been thinking thoughts like these, you likely feel a bit ashamed for feeling this way and you may even be reluctant to share these thoughts with others for fear that they may think you are a horrible person. Wouldn’t it be great if your heart could be filled with feelings of joy instead of envy? The good news is that with a little work, this is possible. You may be blocking your own blessings without even knowing it.
Unknowingly, you may be choking your own blessings with negative thoughts and hopelessness. Negative thoughts are like aggressive weeds that take over the garden that is your mind. Their roots run deep and their leaves and stems crowd the room in the fertile soil that blessings and positive energy must have to grow and flourish. Perhaps your garden is so overrun with these invaders that you can not even see the blessings that lay in front of you. They may be taking up so much of the space in your heart that it has become nearly impossible for you to feel joy for others when they receive good news. Maybe you envy or feel anger toward those who do not face the same kind of challenges you do. Because blessings need positive energy to sprout and stake their claim in the garden, they may be dying before they even have the chance to make their impact on your life.
In order to really allow positive energy to flow into your life, you need to pluck out the negative thoughts by the root so that they do not continue to spread. They will continue to return, and you will need to continue to pluck them. Like a garden, your mind needs to be tended and fertilized. You must be diligent in keeping the weeds out of your beautiful garden. It will take some time for you to become a master gardener, but there are a few things you can do right away to help put a stop to the invasive weeds.
1.) Focus on the child that you are meant to have instead of trying to control the process. Think about being a parent and loving a child and allow the universe to take care of the rest. Have faith that it will happen. When you stop trying to control the process and focus on the prize, you will be surprised at how your personality shifts. You will begin to attract that child into your arms like a piece of metal to a magnet. If you want to be a parent, you will be, but you must be open to the way in which this will happen.
2.) Allow the baby vibes to “rub off” on you. Instead of hiding from pregnant women in the grocery store, make eye contact and say hello. Hold babies every chance you get. Allow yourself to feel the joy that the new parents are feeling. Take care of yourself as if you were expecting. Make room in your home and in your life for a new being.
3.) Create some good karma. Volunteer for a charity that benefits children this holiday season. Offer to babysit for a friend. Comfort someone who is hurting. Adopt a family and give them a holiday that they could not have without you. The compassion that you will feel is sure better than the feelings of envy and sadness that have been taking over your mind.
A new year is right around the corner. Make a list of everything that you can be grateful for this season. You may not feel like celebrating right now, but by keeping positive and taking care of yourself, you are nourishing your garden. Good things can’t help but sprout up in the near future.
